As a child I had a lot of close personal friends male and female…interestingly, at my birthday parties there were always more boys then girls.
In May 1994 Charlotte, North Carolina where I meet my now wife Meech I was a senior in High school getting ready to graduate and go to college. Our relationship consisted of various group sex activities, nights where we'd go picking up boys and girls for each other and long hours of playing dress-up. We had a very serious spiritual bound that to this day we consider ourselves "Witch Sisters".
A few months later I went to college in Raleigh NC where I met my best girl friend Sydney there was never a time where we were not together…if there was a time that we were not together, people would ask where's the other one. Sydney was straight when I met her but our strong relationship and desire to express our love for each other manifested as a relationship where we dated and saw other people but we always ended up going home together at night. She lived with her parents and I ended up being an addition to the family, to the point that we slept in the same bed and no one blinked an eye when we where found showering together. Much later in our relationship when she decided to get married to her high school sweetheart . I was maid of honor at her wedding it seemed that I was getting married to her and her husband. All the wedding picture that I have interestingly are of only her and I.
During that same time in Raleigh I was dating this guy named Stephen. Stephen lived in this house with 3 other guys one of them named Nick was always hanging out with us. I didn't realize, at the time, that everynight that I was over there, Nick always seemed to be there. One evening while watching Heavy Metal with Nick and Stephen. I noticed that they where both looking at me with that sparkle in there eye. That was the same night That I found out that Stephen and Nick were bisexual. Our relationship was great and it was the first time that I had 2 dates for Valentine's Day and it wasn't a scheduling conflict.
I left Raleigh to return home to Charlotte where I moved in to my wife. Meech's house called T.H.E.E. Abby Kali….Thelemic Hedonic Eclectic Ecstatic; Kali- Hindu goddess of chaos. We lived with 2 other man, the house was clothing optional, there was a temple room for prayer and medication, dungeon and the party room with hardwood floors and wall to wall mirrors. During my stay there I learned a lot about multiple relationships, nudity, paganism and BDSM
Also during that time I had many relationships one being my relationship with Brian and Dan. They were best friends and I meet them at the same time. We were always together and they both fell in love with me. At first it was hard for then to realize that I was not choosing sides and our relationship together meant more to me as a "collective", the word I used at the time. My relationships involved having sex in groups. One night early on in my relationship with Brian I had sex with a guy named Billy, who I am still involved with, while he slept in the same bed.
Later, I moved to upstate NY then to NYC this is where my official Polyamory story begins My wife Meech invited me to a Pagan Festival in Sherman NY called Starwood. During the festival I attend a workshop called A Bouquet of Lovers: Open Relationships in a Pagan Tribal Context. I was screaming to myself at the top of my lungs oh my god , now I have a word and a meaning for what I had been doing and feeling all my life. Now I have something to help me understand who I am and why I feel this way.
Now I am part of an intimate network of friends and lovers who all know that I am Polyamorous. My boyfriends and girl know that my ideal relationship would be a 2F3M hextiad or 2M1F triad
So in ending I hope that my experiences and knowledge can help you realize and explore the possibilities of love without limits.